It’s okay to not be OK…

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I came across a post on Sunday which resonated deeply within me.

A post that could’ve been written more or less by myself. So much so that my original post (which I’d deleted)  has now been re-written with a dedication to Aleena from Mummy Mama Mum for encouraging me to publish this. Thank you! 

For me, if it’s not admitting it then it’s accepting it that’s the problem…
Telling myself that sometimes I’m not OK is a struggle. Like a never-ending battle.

If you haven’t read her post yet…  I’m Not OK by Mummy Mama Mum

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Have A Massage, It Helps!

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So last night I had LO in bed with me and for some reason I can never sleep good on a low pillow, my head has to be raised at all times but with LO in bed I adopted a weird sleeping position and as a result, I really messed up my neck. The muscles are tight and stiff I could hardly move my head properly at work and was in constant pain.

A lovely colleague gave me a very brief but well-needed massage on the back of my neck and rubbed some Aveda Blue Oil on there – I am not joking, I could immediately feel some relief from the stiffness. I think it was the massage that did the job but the oil really helped to calm and relax me which helped to take away some of the tension I kept feeling.

It just made me aware how important having a massage can be for our bodies and how we can really benefit from a good massage. When I worked in my previous job as a spa therapist, a regular massage was always on the books as we had to make sure we really looked after our well-being. Now being in two office jobs, I’ve realised that a massage is even more important if you sit at a desk all day; (1) because it does nothing good to our health to be sitting and staring at a screen non-stop for about 4 hours, and (2) Repetitive Strain Injury is one of the most common work-related illnesses we can get as well as depression, back problems, bad posture and anxiety.

Massage can really help to alleviate these conditions and by promoting better wellness, we can live better and work better. Not only are their physical benefits to massage, there’s also psychological benefits too. It has been proven through scientific case studies and medical journals that massage can help to relieve stress as well as help relax stiff muscles and ease tension in the body. In some cases, massage had also helped reduce depression and anxiety.

As a busy working mum, my lifestyle can take its toll on me. All that bending up, down, and sideways to carry him plus all the house chores (bending back to scrub the bath, mop and sweep the floors) and at work sitting slouched at the PC really doesn’t do my body any justice. I’ve not get the best back as I suffer from a lot of back pain since my teens (I’m only 25!) so I know I should really watch my posture but when LO has priority in my life, I just forget about me. Most of the time, I just ‘get by’ with what I’m doing however I know in the long-term, my body could just give up due to exhaustion which is what I really don’t want to happen so I really need to sort myself out now.

So my advice for everyone this week is to have a massage. Whether you do it yourself, get a friend or family member to do it for you, or book in with a massage therapist, I highly recommend you add it to your lifestyle choices to give you that little bit of extra “me-time” but to also care for your body… after all, they do say “always look out for number one” 🙂

 

#WellnessWednesday

How To Do Spa Facials At Home

*Warning: Lengthy post*

For #WellnessWednesday, I thought it would be nice to do an in-depth “How-To” blog post. Coming from a spa industry background, I know how important it is to look after yourself from the inside out. One of the best things about spas is that it is a sanctuary not just for your body, but also for your mind and spirit – it’s the place of recuperation and improving your well-being.

People nowadays are far too stressed and so busy that they don’t fully take the time to relax – I know I am one of these people most of the times which is why I try to take some time out after LO goes to bed to rest my body and my mind. It’s nice to be able to have a facial at the spa – you can unwind and de-stress whilst the therapist gets to work on your skin, making it more radiant and youthful. However sometimes you just can’t get away or money is low and you are stuck for months without a good skin cleanse.

That is why this post is here to help! Below are 5 easy steps how you can achieve spa facial results in the comfort of your own home.

How To Do Spa Facials At Home

Step 1 – Cleanse

If you have makeup on, I recommend doing a “double-cleanse” to ensure that your face is thoroughly cleansed. To do this, use a makeup remover then use a cleanser to thoroughly cleanse the skin. After you have thoroughly cleansed your skin, rinse off with water and pat your skin dry, never rub.

Top Tip: Micellar water is a great alternative as it removes all your makeup (including waterproof mascara) and doesn’t need to be rinsed off – There really is no excuse to sleep in your makeup!

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Step 1: Cleanse

Step 2 – Exfoliate

When exfoliating, don’t be tempted to over-do it as over-exfoliating your skin as it can cause the skin to become sensitive, easily irritated and even break out. When rinsing off your exfoliator make sure you take time to do it thoroughly because you don’t want residue left on your skin when you do the next steps.

After exfoliating, steam your face with a facial steamer that you can buy online, or simply use a face flannel. Make sure it is hot but not boiling then place the flannel over the face for 30 seconds. Adding lavender or tea tree essential oil to a corner of the flannel will give you that spa-like pampering experience. Lavender and tea tree have anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties so they can help with congestion or problematic skin.

Top Tip: Products with salicylic acid works best as it’s an active ingredient that helps remove dead skin cells. If you have congested skin, you are better off with a daily powder or enzyme-active product, avoid abrasive types as this can cause your spots to spread through bacteria if they burst.

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Step 2: Steam & Exfoliate

Step 3 – Massage

Massage, I believe is the reason why spa facials work and it’s the reason why you see results so quickly compared to doing just your skincare routine effectively. The reason being is that massage helps the muscles to relax and repair as well as help push the products deeper into the skin. A good facial massage at a spa takes around 15mins however at home, you are most probably short for time but even a quick facial massage is more beneficial than none. Click here to watch Lisa Elridge’s facial massage routine which I highly recommend. Those draining and lifting techniques will help to tone up the skin and flush away toxins.

Top Tip: You don’t need any fancy-shmancy facial oils. Simple oils such as coconut, grapeseed, rapeseed or olive oil are all excellent choices and all natural.

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Step 3: Massage

Step 4 – Mask

You can choose any type of face masks – it all depends on what you want out of it. If you have problematic/acne/congested or oily skin, use a purifying clay one or a peeling one. If you have no skin concerns or slightly dehydrated skin go for a hydrating face mask. If you have dry skin use a moisturising one to put back the moisture in to your skin. If you have easily irritated skin, use masks specially designed for sensitive skin types.

Top Tip: You only need a face mask twice a week at most, sometimes you can skip this step if you feel that your skin doesn’t need any extra help or if you have no real skin concerns and just want a quick-fix facial.

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Step 4: Mask

Step 5 – Tone & Moisturise

Toner is good for the skin as it helps to remove any remaining products on your skin, tightens the pores and provides additional hydration to the skin. Blot off any excess toner with a tissue or cotton pad.

Choose a moisturiser that is made for your skin type. If you have fair skin, it’s recommended that you use a moisturiser with built-in SP 30+ factor. You should also think about getting a day and night cream as night creams can help improve skin cell renewal.

Top Tip: If you prefer something more “natural”, swap the toner for rosewater which does the same job and is usually cheaper than good toners. Avoid any toner with Alcohol Denat especially if you have dry or sensitive as this can dry out the skin even more.

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Step 5: Moisturise

I hope you enjoyed reading this in-depth guide on how to do your own spa facials at home. If you do give it a try, let me know how it went!

Happy #WellnessWednesday

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