Advice to my first-time-mummy self #VicksBabyRubChallenge

The Greenwich Mummy | Family Lifestyle Blogger

Dear first-time-mum me,

Congratulations on your new addition! You must be so proud of your new baby boy, and of course, why wouldn’t you be?

You probably have so many thoughts, emotions and feelings about parenting racing through your mind and that’s completely normal… as a matter of fact, that feeling never really goes away completely! People say it gets easier when you have your second child and they are right in some respects but don’t forget – EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT. It’s not always smooth sailing with two in tow; it’s double the mess, double the stress, double the tantrums but double the love which makes it all worthwhile.

There will be fantastic moments like all of baby boy’s firsts; first smile, first laugh, first word, first walk… Then, there will be the crappy days like sleepless nights, temper tantrums, colic, nightmares. When sleep deprivation kicks in, it’s going to sting like a B.I.T.C.H, I won’t sugar-coat it but you will start getting your energy back I promise. For you personally, this will happen around the 4-5 month mark when baby boy learns to sleep a little longer and wakes up a little less at night.

The Greenwich Mummy | Family Lifestyle Blogger
Advice for my first-time-parent self for the @Britmums #VicksBabyRubChallenge

While you’re muddling along trying to figure out this parenting stuff with your BabyCentre forums, Doctor Google and Gurgle Magazine articles, here’s some advice I want to give you for the years to come and before you find out you’re having a second child after 2.5 years…

Make time for yourself

This will always be a hard one for you because you keep putting other people first; whether it’s your baby boy, your hubby, family members or friends you keep trying to give up your time to help them (which is good) but you need to give yourself time too otherwise you will end up burning out. Because you’ve always been this way, it will take time before you really learn how to say no but everyone has to start somewhere. Just give baby boy to hubby for the day and get out of the house. Do things that you loved doing before you became a mum ie. drawing, baking, cooking, eating out with friends and you’ll find yourself a much happier person in the long run.

Make sure you get enough sleep

The good thing is that when baby boy has a nap, you will usually have a nap too which will save you from sleep deprivation. However, once you’re up you tend to find it quite difficult to shut off which means sometimes you skip your morning naps with bubba. This then compounds over weeks and then you find yourself really struggling to sleep at night too then start attacking hubby for sleeping and picking arguments for the sake of it. This is not a good route to go down and something you should learn to avoid doing by making sure you let your body rest regularly and fully. You’ll have to remember to get enough sleep when your second one comes along too.

Well done for coping under pressure

The worst memory you’ll have is when baby boy is three and he goes to A&E for jumping off the coffee table, hitting his head on the side and cutting an inch of his head open. He was so strong and only cried for about 5 minutes whilst you comforted him. Let me tell you now, you did amazingly well at making out like it was just a little scratch because secretly underneath, you were dying inside eith guilt for not watching, shaken from the shock of it all and just wanted to cry your eyes out but you didn’t. It’ll the first time he hurt himself that badly. Luckily, he’ll not really feel the pain and after a 3-4 hour wait at the hospital, the doctor will glue the cut together and he’ll be as right as rain in no time.

You’ll be the ‘go-to mum’ for your first-time friends

They will come to you for advice. The reason they’ll like to coming to you is because you don’t judge them and you don’t try to enforce your parenting styles onto them, which they’ll really appreciate.

You’ll try your best to give your mother-to-be friends a balanced view and always present both sides of the coin so that they can make up their own mind for their parenting journey. If they ask you specifically for your view and then you’ll tell them in the most honest and genuine way possible.

All that bedtime reading with your boy really does pay off!

You’ll love reading to your little boy and start doing so when he’s around 3 months old. It will become your little bedtime routine together which you’ll carry on even until he is four. All the reading will make your little boy love books and he will end up being one of the top children in his reception class that can read with little supervision. You’ll occasionally catch him reading to himself with books he’s really interested in ie. Harry and the Bucket full of Dinosaurs.

You dare not to tell any of the mums at school about high advanced reading levels for the fear of being the labelled “the mum that likes to brag about her child” but you will get to share your joy with your family members and close friends.

Being on a tight budget makes you a practical spender

This is probably the only good thing about being on a budget all the time. You have no money to buy expensive or unnecessary things. You will soon discover that local Facebook groups have the world of things available second-hand at a cheap price which you’ll love. You’ll also try to keep your spending practical. For example, when your little boy gets sniffly and bunged up, you buy rubs like Snuffle Babe and Vicks BabyRub which really help.

Vicks BabyRub has mild fragrances of lavender, rosemary and aloe vera which is really soothing and gentle enough for you to use on a daily basis. You’ll tend to use it more in the evenings ie. after bathtime or before bedtime.

For nappy creams, you’ll find metanium barrier cream works best. You love buying Pampers nappies and wipes but also found that Sainsbury’s own brand and Asda’s own brand were great alternatives and much cheaper too. You’ll only buy fancy clothes from Next every now and then. For regular clothes, grow-suits etc you’ll find old Asda and Sainsbury’s are the best for that stuff.

Mum and baby classes are great for bonding

You’ll love the baby massage classes you sign up for. You’ll find the massage techniques help with your baby’s colic. You also love the bonding connection between you and your baby. When you’re pregnant with your second, you will have to also think about your health. You will try post-natal pilates after your second child and start your gym membership too.

The library will be one of your favourite places to go with your boy and the rhyme time and story time sessions are so popular, you’ll make a lot of mummy friends from going to them.

Stick to the baby-led weaning!

As soon as your boy becomes ready for weaning onto solids, you’ll do really well with feeding him purees and making your own blended meals for him. You’ll also opt for a flexible baby-led weaning approach because you want your boy to feed himself and learn how to use his cutlery. But as he gets older, you and hubby decide to start spoon-feeding him because he would take an hour to finish his meal or will hardly eat. Where he’s such an active boy, he can’t sit still for long and so you both think spoon feedung will help.

In hindsight, you should’ve stuck to your guns and not listen to hubby with the spoon feeding because at four years old, your boy still struggles to eat properly by himself. It would’ve probably been more difficult and taken longer but I am sure it would’ve workd out for the better. The teachers at school say he eats well but you’re not entirely sure this is true because he doesn’t do it at home. He will also start to refuse eating meat products and opt for a pescatarian diet when he’s 2-3yrs old which is fine but I think if you try to introduce him to more food variety when he’s weaning, that would help him learn to eat foods with different textures and tastes which would help him out when he’s older.

All in all, you’re a great mum!

Keep doing what you’re doing because you are really doing great. You’re learning to find your feet as a first-time-mum.  And while you take into consideration other people’s advice (especially when it comes to unwanted advice from family friends, including the non-parent ones), you make sure you define your own rules to parenting. After all, there’s really no right or wrong way when it comes to parenting, just your way.

And what works for one child might not work for another… You’ll find this out when you have your second child! 🙂

Stay sane. Big hugs and kisses, from your future (second-time-mum) self. xx

The Greenwich Mummy | London Family Lifestyle Blogger


This post is an entry for Britmums #VicksBabyRubChallenge, sponsored by Vicks BabyRub. Specially designed for babies aged 6 months and over, Vicks BabyRub is available at Boots, Superdrug, TEsco, Asda, Waitrose and all good pharmacy chains. RRP £3.99.

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Just like my mum: I call it ‘Mothermorphosis’

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“I’m turning into my mother.”

The words I never, ever wanted to hear myself say but alas, it has become the inevitable. I call it ‘mothermorphosis’.

Mother-Morphosis
mother = a woman in relation to her child or children
morphosis = the manner in which an organism or any of its parts changes form or undergoes development

There comes a time in our lives as mothers that we start to follow a path that is all too similar… The path of our own mothers. This may or may not be a route we wish to follow but sometimes it happens. Sometimes it’s a good thing, other times not so good.

Don’t get me wrong I love my mother but there are some of her traits that I hate. Continue reading “Just like my mum: I call it ‘Mothermorphosis’”

My top 10 products to buy a new mum & baby

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The Greenwich Mummy Blog - Top 10 Buys Kiddicare Wishlist
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Firstly… CONGRATULATIONS!

(If you’re not expecting and reading this, here are some great gifts for family members or friends who are)

Expecting a baby whether it’s your first or third is a wonderful experience but it can also be a stressful one. Planning ahead can make things a little easier but from my experience I found that by ‘winging it’ and improvising along the way yields near enough the same results so why add on the extra stress? It’s a bit harder to not stress when it’s your first baby – I remember when I was pregnant with LO I made plans and notes constantly. 1) because of baby brain, I could hardly remember anything and needed constant reminders and 2) I became a little OCD with planning because at the time it felt like it was making a difference and made me feel more in control of my pregnancy.

If you’re a mum to be, you can use this post as a starting point for your wishlist… gifts are what baby showers or  baby sprinkles (mini showers for 2nd, 3rd babies) are for! Don’t be shy ladies, everyone who has children knows how hard and expensive raising a child/children can be and we all need a little help from time to time and showers are the time they should be accepted without arguments. Just don’t go crazy and extravagant with your wishlist or your guests may not turn up! 🙂

I decided to split this list into 5 products for baby and 5 for the expecting parent because gifts aren’t always for bubba, they’re also for the new mum. (sorry Dads-to-be!) Continue reading “My top 10 products to buy a new mum & baby”

The Real World Parenting Awards: Recognising people who go the extra mile

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The Real World Parenting Awards

Being a new mum can be a challenge especially in the first twelve months of a baby’s life. Despite this being my second birth I still felt and faced the same things I did when I was a first-time mum; anxiety, newborn worries and challenges (reflux, colic, breastfeeding issues), postpartum problems and body hang-ups, baby blues and generally feeling overwhelmed with everything.

It’s totally common for new mums to find that they get the “baby blues” at some stage in their post-pregnancy life which is completely normal. The majority of the time it will just go away by itself. However, sometimes a little bit of extra support is needed for us mums. I had the baby blues in both pregnancies but this time round found it a little more difficult to cope. Baby Girl was constantly crying and Daddy P was away most of the time. I felt like I was being left alone to defend for myself then having an active toddler on top of that made it even more challenging. Continue reading “The Real World Parenting Awards: Recognising people who go the extra mile”

Mamas & Papas Parents-To-Be Event Returns!

M&P Parents To Be Event

Are you an expecting a little one soon or do you know of anyone who is? If the answer is yes then keep reading or share this post with the expecting parents & let them know about this wonderful event.

Mamas & Papas are holding another special Parents-to-be event across the UK. Its 100% free, all you have to do is visit their website to book your place.

What time and where?

It’s on Sunday 22nd November 2015 (London stores) and there are various other places it’s being held too. Just check the link below for the list of locations and to book your place. It’s from 11:00am and lasts for 2 hours.

http://bespoke.bookingbug.com/mamas-and-papas/index_events.html

What’s going to be there?

Probably the same as the one last summer, I’m guessing there’ll be product demos, tips, discounts on products and much more. It should be a brilliant turn out just like the last one so what are you waiting for? Click the link above to find your nearest participating store and book your free ticket!

About Mamas & Papas 
Mamas & Papas is the leading brand for prams, pushchairs, car seats, cots, highchairs, nursery furniture, bedding and toys. M&P have 37 independent stores and over 100 specially selected stockists in the UK as well as an extensive online store to shop from.

Click here to visit the M&P website

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Mamas & Papas Parents To Be Event: August 2015

M&P Parents To Be Event

M&P Parents To Be Event

Are you an expecting mother or father? Or you know of anyone who is then share this post and let them know about this wonderful event. I came across it in my email as I’m subscribed to the Mamas & Papas newsletter and they are holding a special Parents-to-be event across the UK. Its 100% free, all you have to do is visit their website to book your place.

Hurry though as most London venues are already fully booked (Westfield Stratford City & Westfield White City) but there are still some places left at other venues.

What time and where?

It’s on Sunday 16th August and there are various places it’s being held, check the link below for the list and to book your place. It’s from 10:00am til 12:00pm noon so best to arrive on time to get the best experience.

http://www.mamasandpapas.com/store-events/parents-to-be-event/1

What’s going to be there?

There’ll be product demos, tips from healthcare professionals and even first-aid advice from the Red Cross. It should be a brilliant turn out so you’ll have a chance to speak to other parents-to-be and new parents and maybe even make a few new mummy/daddy friends! 🙂

You’ll also receive a free goody bag (while stocks last) and there will be drinks and nibbles upon arrival – just fab!

I’m not expecting another baby any time soon and LO is a little too old for me to get any benefits from this event but it was such a fabulous thing to see in my email, I just had to share with you all… plus it’s on LO’s bday so I will be busy planning his day to attend!

About Mamas & Papas 
Mamas & Papas is the leading brand for prams, pushchairs, car seats, cots, highchairs, nursery furniture, bedding and toys. M&P have 37 independent stores and over 100 specially selected stockists in the UK as well as an extensive online store to shop from.

www.mamasandpapas.com

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