It’s okay to not be OK…

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I came across a post on Sunday which resonated deeply within me.

A post that could’ve been written more or less by myself. So much so that my original post (which I’d deleted)  has now been re-written with a dedication to Aleena from Mummy Mama Mum for encouraging me to publish this. Thank you! 

For me, if it’s not admitting it then it’s accepting it that’s the problem…
Telling myself that sometimes I’m not OK is a struggle. Like a never-ending battle.

If you haven’t read her post yet…  I’m Not OK by Mummy Mama Mum

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What was the last thing your child needed?

I read a post on the World Vision blog and a couple of other mummy blogs answering the question, “what was the last thing your child needed?” and wanted to give my little response and thoughts on the question.

The last thing my children needed was pretty much the basics… food and changing. Changing nappies for Baby Girl, changing clothes for LO.

Baby Girl did her morning poop and needed me to keep her clean and fresh. She’s such a good baby and doesn’t complain much when it comes to a dirty nappy. She’ll happily stay in the nappy for hours but obviously I’d smell her way before that time. However something as easy and simple as this could’ve been difficult if I didn’t have the right things to hand ie a nappy or wipes. Fair enough, it’s possible to change a baby without wipes – I could just use cotton balls and water but what if I didn’t even have those? In countries where clean water is hard to come by, keeping a baby clean can be a difficult task in itself. Continue reading “What was the last thing your child needed?”

Gender Labelling: “Purple is for girls”… why hearing this really rattled my cage

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I don’t usually write posts like this and usually leave the serious stuff to the better writes but I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and opinions on gender labelling.

Last week LO and his cousin Lils were playing with the Paw Patrol puzzle my friend Coco got LO for Chirstmas.

The next thing I heard come out of Lils’ mouth was:

“purple is for girls” 

I stopped my instagram surfing to look up and say in defense, “Purple is not just for girls. Purple is for everyone“.
Yes. I made sure I placed heavy emphasis on everyone. This is because it’s not the first time it’s happened.

There’s been other times when they’re playing together – happy as Larry – before my little nephew decides to tell LO that something he likes is “for girls” which really pisses me off. It’s something that I’m a little hypocritical about because I don’t have a problem with buying Baby Girl pink clothes and LO blue clothes when he was a baby BUT (and that’s a big but) I would not avoid ‘boyish’ colours for her and I certainly didn’t avoid ‘girly’ colours for LO. In fact, LO had a few pink, pastel and purple baby grows and shirts. Maybe not a whole pink outfit but he had touches of pinks etc in his little wardrobe. Continue reading “Gender Labelling: “Purple is for girls”… why hearing this really rattled my cage”

Happy New Year! My Goals for 2017

Happy New Year everybody! 

I can’t believe a year has come and gone already – it has gone so fast and so much has happened since last year.

I’ve had a new baby, LO turned three, Baby Girl had her first Christmas and is now standing and cruising at 7 months, I started my yoga practice, fitness journey, and Daddy P and I had our 10th year anniversary. I’ve also found out on of my closest friends is expecting. Such joyous times!

2016 was not really a bad year for us. I’ve seen loads of things on my SM feeds like “f**k 2016 and its negativity, etc” so maybe it wasn’t the best year for some. We did experience slightly more money problems this year but that was to be expected as we now have an extra person added to our family.

Life Goals 2017

I set myself some pretty achievable goals for 2017. I don’t believe in New Year’s resolution because the term gets used a lot for novelty goals that people never really stick to. For me, 2017 is all about adopting a sustainable lifestyle; eating a balanced diet, keeping fit regularly, adding in a few minutes of meditation here and there, and to be mindful in everything I do. Continue reading “Happy New Year! My Goals for 2017”

Is It Right To Criticise Struggling Parents?

“To all those people criticising Prince William, I say fuck you.”

Source: Is It Right To Criticise Struggling Parents by The Life of Tont

So I just came across the blog post above thanks to MummaScribble’s #TwinklyTuesday linky and boy am I glad I read it! I had heard snippets on the radio last Saturday night about the whole interview thing Prince William did on Vietnam radio and I am very shocked to hear that people have criticised him for saying that he finds parenting a struggle.

Parenting struggles aren’t means-tested. Whether you are earning £100+ a year or scraping by on £10 a week, you are a human being and entitled to express your feelings, emotions and opinions. This includes members of the Royal family – they are human too! To criticise someone like that because of their social status is disgusting and appalling. Of course having wad loads of money definitely helps when it comes to materialistic things but you know the saying “money can’t buy love” – it also applies to parenting. Just because you have money, you don’t become immune to the challenges of being a parent throws at you.

It’s such an old-school way of thinking. My mum is like that – she believes that if you are from a healthy class you will have no problems in life. She believed it so much that when I first got pregnant she was so disappointed that I didn’t find someone “better” (she means someone white, middle-class and wealthy) instead of a regular ol’ guy.

Personally, I thought the Prince was very brave in coming out and telling the world about it. A bit of a weird place to first mention it though (on Vietnam radio) but maybe no-one has really asked the Prince how he’s felt since he became a second-time dad… who knows. Either way, people need to just chill.

That’s just my two cents. 🙂

Snappy Happy Sundays #14

Okay, so I didn’t take this photo but really wanted to share this quote from my new mindfulness app, Calm:

The Greenwich Mummy Blog | Quotes
Photo Credit: Calm App #DailyCalm