Everyone had a brilliant time and I am so grateful for the turnout that we had. We decided to host your birthday at Discovery Planet in Surrey Quays because (1) it’s close to home and a good location for everyone, and (2) the birthday package deal they offered was great value. We decided to have your cake made by auntie Dinah (DinahsDesserts.com) because her cakes taste scrumptious and look amazing. She didn’t let us down with your unicorn cake at all! It was definitely the second star of the show – the first being you, of course. 🙂
(If you’re not expecting and reading this, here are some great gifts for family members or friends who are)
Expecting a baby whether it’s your first or third is a wonderful experience but it can also be a stressful one. Planning ahead can make things a little easier but from my experience I found that by ‘winging it’ and improvising along the way yields near enough the same results so why add on the extra stress? It’s a bit harder to not stress when it’s your first baby – I remember when I was pregnant with LO I made plans and notes constantly. 1) because of baby brain, I could hardly remember anything and needed constant reminders and 2) I became a little OCD with planning because at the time it felt like it was making a difference and made me feel more in control of my pregnancy.
If you’re a mum to be, you can use this post as a starting point for your wishlist… gifts are what baby showers or baby sprinkles (mini showers for 2nd, 3rd babies) are for! Don’t be shy ladies, everyone who has children knows how hard and expensive raising a child/children can be and we all need a little help from time to time and showers are the time they should be accepted without arguments. Just don’t go crazy and extravagant with your wishlist or your guests may not turn up! 🙂
It was announced in August that a London hospital decided to pilot a scheme that has been a part of the Finnish maternity scheme for over eighty years. I first came across the post on the Baby London website and thought it was such an interesting topic. Upon digging deeper into the article, I came to realise that the Finnish have been supplying new mums with a ‘baby box’ that is filled with mum and baby products. The baby box is used as a sleeping place for the newborn replacing the need for a cot, crib or moses basket.
Apparently, the baby box has been proven to be a really safe place for newborns to sleep as they cannot roll in the box. It’s something that the Finnish have been doing for over 80 years so it’s a big surprise that the UK has only decided to start implementing something like this now. The baby box is also filled with many things a new mum may need from nappies to baby bodysuits to money-off coupons and vouchers for all things baby.
If the pilot is announced as a success, we may see this new maternity scheme rolled out across the UK.
Even as a second-time mum there are still things that I am learning about second time round. LO is what you’d call the “perfect baby”. He breastfed well, hardly ever cried, didn’t cry or get a fever at all when it was time for immunisations, he slept good and didn’t suffer from colic or reflux or other little niggles like that. Baby Girl however was the complete opposite.
She was constantly crying. She had colic from day one as well as silent reflux and the midwives at the hospital didn’t notice it. We got meds for her later on. She constantly had hiccoughs which I think was due to the reflux because she would never burp after feeds. Even after five or ten minutes patting her in every direction to get her to wind, it wouldn’t happen.
She also didn’t breastfeed well as l my nipple was too big for her mouth so she had a terrible latch. Then to top it all off… She was constipated and it made her extra fussy – like WTF?! I thought exclusively breastfed babies never get constipated? Well, I can tell you know from experience that it’s definitely a lie. Exclusively BF babies are just as susecptible to constipation as formula-fed babies. The good thing was that she continued to gain weight well so I just had to cope and manage with it.
Three months on…
Now baby girl is three months old, it’s been much better. Her fussiness is at a minimum. We stopped giving her the reflux meds and her colic just disappeared as she got older and so did the reflux. I think it’s because when babies are newborns their stomach is so immature therefore they get colicky really easily and can become sensitive to everything.
She burps by herself after most feeds and when I pat her there is always a satisfying burp afterwards. Music to my ears! 🙂 I also started combi-feeding (breastfeeding and formula feeding) and it’s really sorted out her constipation. She now has regular bowel movements so for us, this worked really well. I love breastfeeding and wish I could’ve exclusively breastfeed Baby Girl longer but I didn’t want to be selfish. She needed more and upping the feeds was still not satisfying her so I had to supplement with formula.
Development-wise she is smiling a lot more, she is babbling away non-stop which is so adorable. Sometimes I wish LO would stop talking and Baby Girl would start haha! She is also really good on her front – I’ve been trying to increase her tummy time but already she seems to be holding her head up well which is fantastic. 🙂
She’s also very good at kicking her legs…sometimes to a point where she actually moves from where she originally was. LO says she’s ‘peddling’ – bless him! 🙂 He gets so excited when she kicks her legs and occasionally joins in with her…
She’s also so dribbly now and constantly biting on her hands – I really think she’s teething so I’ve already bought her a few teething toys but she doesn’t really know what to do with it yet. I’ll wait a little longer then hopefully she’ll just start to figure it out.
I just can’t believe how fast they grow… soon before I know it, it’ll be her first birthday! *gasps*
Experts and medical professionals will tell you that the safest place for a baby to sleep in the first six months are in a moses basket or a cot. While this is good advice, sometimes you need something more convenient – this is where co-sleeping can become a new mum’s favourite way of sleeping.
As soon as my little princess was born the midwives encouraged skin-to-skin contact which I gave without hesitation. Babies love being close to their mothers so why should this have to change at night? I remember Baby Girl’s first home visit with the health visitor. She went through all these leaflets about how to care for baby, feed baby, sleep with baby and touched on co-sleeping. Here are some of the co-sleeping safety rules which can also be found on the National Childbirth Trust (NCT) website.
Make sure your baby can’t fall out of the bed or become trapped between the mattress and the wall
Keep your baby cool by using sheets and blankets rather than a duvet.
Ensure bedding does not cover your baby’s face or head
Always put your baby to sleep on their back rather than their front or side
Babies don’t need a pillow until they are at least a year old. They should also be kept away from parents’ pillows
Never risk falling asleep with your baby on a sofa or armchair
Never co-sleep with your baby if you (or your partner) smoke/drink/take drugs that affect awareness
I DON’T co-sleep with Baby Girl when I am overly tired because it’s really dangerous to do so (suffocation, rolling on baby, etc). Who knows what could happen when I am in deep sleep that’s been spurred on from being exhausted and sleep deprived.
If you’re not confident about sharing your bed with your baby there’s really good cots and bassinets you can now buy which you put next to the side of your bed like an extension. I have a standard cot and have one side of the rail really low and next to the bed for easy access.
When co-sleeping is carried out safely, it can be a fantastic way for mother and baby to bond and you get to catch up on your sleep and get decent rest. If you breastfeed then you can do so easily and conveniently. If you think that co-sleeping is right for you and your baby, definitely give it a try if you haven’t done so already..